The PolyPhoria Blog
Welcome to my blog about my polyamorous journey over three and a half decades! PolyPhoria means "many states" and, as someone who's experienced MANY different dynamics, orientations and structures in my relationships, that really resonated. Here I share what I've learned, and am learning, about how to have healthier relationships with others and with myself!
Abandonment Issues? Me?
I think abandonment issues come in so many forms, it is unusual not to have any. A parent or caregiver with an addiction issue, divorced or deceased parents, a workaholic, someone who is shut down and emotionally unavailable, an abusive or neglectful parent, ...
Can I SAVE My Relationship?
One of the most common questions I've had posed to me as a coach is "Can I save my relationship?" The answer is always "Yes - but you need to be sure you actually WANT to." Wanting to save a relationship in trouble is a natural response. The relationship is with...
Two Types of People in a Relationship
There are two types of people in a relationship; Collectors and Investors.
Collectors WANT something from you; it might be romance, intimacy, friendship but they want something that you have to offer. They want to vent to you, have you listen, appreciate and witness their lives and when they’re done with you, they put you on the shelf. Not a great feeling;believe me; especially once you’ve discovered your own worth. That’s when these types of relationships start to flounder, because as long as you DON’T know what you deserve to have in a relationship, you can subsist here for quite a long, lonely time.
When Your Abusive Relationship is with Yourself
The most common limiting belief I come across is “I’m not enough”. The root cause usually stems from childhood and always involves the judgement of others and frequently the burden of shame as a result. While a good therapist will help you process the past trauma, a...
Create Boundaries Not Walls
"Healthy boundaries". Everyone talks about them. We know what they are. We know we should have them. We know that if we make them, we will be honouring our needs, letting people know we deserve respect, and therefore they will help us feel better. Except that...
Surrender to Success
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