The PolyPhoria Blog

Welcome to my blog about my polyamorous journey over three and a half decades! PolyPhoria means “many states” and, as someone who’s experienced MANY different dynamics, orientations and structures in my relationships, that really resonated. Here I share what I’ve learned, and am learning, about how to have healthier relationships with others and with myself!

Weaponized Autonomy

by Leanne Million | Nov 20, 2023 | Communication, Consensual Non Monogamy, Emotional Health, Empowerment, Mental Health, Personal Development, Polyamory, Relationships, Self Care, Sexual Health, Uncategorized

First of all, yes, you are absolutely entitled ALWAYS to decide for yourself what you want to say and do. You have FULL CONTROL over that. That’s 100% true. AND you also have a responsibility as a human being to treat the people in your sphere well, SIMULTANEOUSLY as you exercise your autonomy.

Prioritizing a Partner is NOT Hierarchy

by Leanne Million | Oct 15, 2023 | Communication, Consensual Non Monogamy, Emotional Health, Empowerment, Mental Health, Personal Development, Polyamory, Relationships, Self Care

The inherent assumption is that the status of “highest priority” in hierarchical relationships will remain permanently and never ever waver, which is, for most, unrealistic. And in practice is quite a powerful and sometimes inaccurate assumption. It can also feed harmful behaviours (VETO is an example) and ways of thinking of someone else as intrinsically LESS. Which is personally why I don’t practice hierarchy.

Finding Balance in Polyamory

by Leanne Million | Jul 9, 2023 | Communication, Consensual Non Monogamy, Emotional Health, Empowerment, Mental Health, Personal Development, Polyamory, Relationships, Self-help Tools

If you don’t yet know your limits of time, energy and resouces, you’re about bump your head on the ceiling of those! So, what can you DO? How do you discuss this with your partners in a compassionate, loving, mindful way?

Speaking Their Love Language: an Obligation or a Choice?

by Leanne Million | Mar 27, 2023 | Communication, Emotional Health, Empowerment, Mental Health, Relationships, Self-help Tools

I wrote this in response to an online post which stated that learning a partner’s love language was never intended for you to feel obligated to fill their needs in that way. The person posting went on to say, “If you tell me your love language as a means of MAKING me…

I Have Feelings

by Leanne Million | Feb 5, 2023 | Communication, Emotional Health, Empowerment, Mental Health, Relationships, Self Care, Self-help Tools

I have feelings. They are not easily hurt but they have been bruised too many times to count. They have learned to guard themselves. They have been taught that loving someone doesn’t solve all problems. They have been shown that vulnerability often leads to fear,…

My Top 20 Tips for Great Group Sex

by Leanne Million | Jan 22, 2023 | Communication, Consensual Non Monogamy, Emotional Health, Personal Development, Polyamory, Relationships, Self-help Tools, Sexual Health

So, you’ve decided to dip your toes into group sex? OR you have before but are hoping to increase the odds of a positive experience? OR you just are curious AF? I’ve got you. Here are my… Top 20 Tips for Great Group Sex! 1. Don’t hoard someone’s time and body…

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Weaponized Autonomy

Prioritizing a Partner is NOT Hierarchy

Finding Balance in Polyamory

Speaking Their Love Language: an Obligation or a Choice?

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