The PolyPhoria Blog
Welcome to my blog about my polyamorous journey over three and a half decades! PolyPhoria means "many states" and, as someone who's experienced MANY different dynamics, orientations and structures in my relationships, that really resonated. Here I share what I've learned, and am learning, about how to have healthier relationships with others and with myself!
When You Need Control, You’re Out of It
Are you a control freak? Maybe you desire control over your kids, your relationship or your job. So you make rules, right? Rules can be very enticing. They can feel like you are getting what you want, which is the people in your life are behaving as you'd like them...
The Truth About Self-Love
I don't see much value from the notion of "in order to love another you must first love yourself". It's a cute catch phrase and I get it's intention is to promote work on self-esteem and worth (which is entirely valid and I don't intend to dispute its importance), but...
Rejection is a Gift
We all want acceptance, belonging; want to be attractive to someone, desired, valued. We strive to be smart, heathy, stylish so that another human will WANT us. We spend hours putting together a dating profile, or choosing the right thing to wear on a first date, or...
Weiss’ SEX Languages and Why I Redesigned Them
Who doesn't want to speak the same language as their partner when it comes to intimacy? RIGHT? Sex can be a bit of hit and miss when you don't understand how to connect and engage someone's sex drive, before, during and after sex. If you know the Five Love Languages...
Change Takes Courage
Chalkboard with the words "Time for Change" written on it. Sometimes change is imposed upon us. We lose a job or a place to live, someone breaks up with us. We all know how those kinds of changes happen. In those cases, we need courage to face the loss and whatever's...
What Stories Do You Tell Yourself?
Humans are incredible storytellers! We have been, since before the written word, able to re-enact for others our adventures. We have been able to imagine outrageous, unbelievable things and then accomplish them (I think of the original Star Trek and how many of those...
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“I'm so happy that I stumbled upon Leanne! As a Relationship Coach, she helped me through a very trying timein my polyamorous, D/s relationship. She gave me some helpful coping skills and helped me come tosome difficult realizations and decisions. I could tell that Leanne truly cared about my happinessand well-being and she gave me some advice that will stick with me for a long time.Leanne made a huge impact on my life and I will forever be grateful.”
Rebecca
Arizona, USA
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