The PolyPhoria Blog

Welcome to my blog about my polyamorous journey over three and a half decades! PolyPhoria means "many states" and, as someone who's experienced MANY different dynamics, orientations and structures in my relationships, that really resonated. Here I share what I've learned, and am learning, about how to have healthier relationships with others and with myself!

What’s Wrong with Unicorn Hunting?

by Leanne Million | Nov 8, 2022 | Communication, Consensual Non Monogamy, Emotional Health, Empowerment, Mind/Body Connection, Polyamory, Relationships

NOTE: Unicorn hunting is when a couple seeks out another person, often a bi woman for a cis/het couple (M/F) to have a s-xual relationship with. The term most often refers to a woman, but may refer to any gender, and not all couples that unicorn hunt are Male/Female....

Is Non-monogamy the Natural State for Humans?

by Leanne Million | Oct 16, 2022 | Communication, Consensual Non Monogamy, Empowerment, Personal Development, Polyamory, Relationships

Here’s an exerpt: “I’m not here to write a paper debunking the theories of “Sex at Dawn”. There’s others who have done a much more thorough job of that than I. And some of what they theorize in the book makes sense to me in many ways but I see a lot of assumptions presented as conclusions. Theories are just that; theories. Sometimes they lead us to labeling them as facts, and sometimes facts are disproved after new information is acquired. And sometimes they remain theoretical. And that’s okay too.”

What DO You Do? A Chronicle of the Last Six Years

by Leanne Million | Aug 9, 2022 | Communication, Consensual Non Monogamy, Emotional Health, Empowerment, Mind/Body Connection, Personal Development, Relationships, Self Care, Self-help Tools

Don’t get me wrong. Everything I did for my family, giving help where I could and the visits – it’s all part of a life well lived – and what anyone would do, and I would do it all again. I NEED to be able to be there for others too, if I’m able at all. I don’t blame them or resent them for anything. I love them and am so grateful for them and have no regrets. My symptoms are just part of my new normal now that I have to live with.

Being Ambiamorous: Part Poly, Part Mono

by Leanne Million | Jun 5, 2022 | Communication, Consensual Non Monogamy, Emotional Health, Empowerment, Mental Health, Personal Development, Polyamory, Relationships, Self-help Tools

Usually one hears “I’m Ambiamorous because I can be HAPPY in either mono or poly relationships” – and bless them for having that experience. At first glance, the term made sense intellectually (just looking at my history) but it didn’t quite resonate emotionally. I do feel happy…SOMETIMES… and I also experience SOME level of discomfort in ALL of my relationships much of the time.

Are There Successful Mono/Poly Relationships?

by Leanne Million | Apr 10, 2022 | Communication, Consensual Non Monogamy, Emotional Health, Empowerment, Mental Health, Personal Development, Polyamory, Relationships, Self Care, Self-help Tools

Yes. Mono/Poly or consensually non-monogamous relationships CAN work. However, many people don't believe so. Even some polyamorous authors like Kathy Labriola, author of The Jealousy Workbook, don't think they work. Kathy claims “mono/poly relationships are doomed” ....

What is Personal Dissonance & Why Do We Need It?

by Leanne Million | Apr 7, 2022 | Communication, Emotional Health, Mental Health, Mind/Body Connection, Personal Development, Relationships, Self Care, Self-help Tools

You’ve probably heard of Cognitive Dissonance which is the discomfort we feel when we have two conflicting thoughts or a conflict between beliefs and actions. For example, you care about the environment, but you use plastic bags. You may have a general feeling of...